Being honest with yourself about where you are is the second key ingredient to a fulfilling life. The first being knowing yourself and therefore knowing what it is that you want, as we’ve discussed in our previous lesson.
So why do we say that you need to know where you are in relation to what it is that you want? It is not to measure the distance between where you find yourself and where you want to be. It is about having an honest conversation with yourself about acknowledging to yourself that you are on a journey and where you find yourself on the journey is neither right nor wrong. It is just where you are; it is about acceptance of what is.
Not just through the rest of the course, but central to all of my material you will find a recurring concept – and that is the importance of empowering your now, and later in the course we will really dive into the mastering of empowering every moment. As a start, we need to know that we only have power in every ‘now’. And whenever we give our focus in the now to the negative aspects of our present, future or past, we are giving our power to those things. And that’s just how the game of life works. So when we say you need to really assess where you are, it is so you can truly say whether you are empowered in most of your ‘nows’ or not, and to adjust course
Because we are on a journey, you will never reach a state where you will stop expanding, you will always look to become more. Keeping with our journey analogy – the horison is ever-shifting. That means that you will never stop wanting to create; it is at your very core. And waiting around for fulfilment to come knocking will not work either. You need to make the journey itself fulfilling, and that we will touch on more in the next lesson of ‘Creating a Map’. And it starts by having an empowered now.
A key element in being more empowered is to practise appreciation for where you are right now. But then many of you may think: “How can I appreciate this thing or this person if it clearly makes me unhappy?” Well, there are 2 ways that we can look at that: Firstly, this thing or this relationship has caused you to better know what you do want for yourself. It has helped to define who you want to be. And therefore it has served a purpose, and for that you can be appreciative.
Secondly, if you do not make peace inside yourself with that thing or that person, you are giving your focus, your power, your energy to that. And it is not something we do naturally, we are never taught to focus with precision, but if you can be the master of your own thoughts, then you really have control of your life; that is mastery of the self. If you focus on something you give it your energy, and you really have the choice of how you want to apply that energy, even if it doesn’t always feel that way because we are not accustomed to directing our thoughts.
Worth mentioning, is that often people will be hesitant to focus on the positives of a situation as they are afraid that it means that they have accepted the current situation and therefore they current situation will remain unchanged or they will no longer want to follow their dreams or have them realised, but quite the opposite is true: you are on much surer footing to pursue your dreams if your focus and energy is fully available to you to apply as you intend to.
A quick way to check with yourself whether a thought that you are having is empowering or disempowering to ask yourself whether the thought is uplifting and encouraging (can be seen as a pull factor), or is it negative and discouraging (seen as a push factor). We will get into the application of our focus and energy into more detail later in the course.
For the rest of the course will not go into too much detail into describing and emphasising where we find ourselves, as the exercises in this lesson was to illustrate a point, but you are in a different place on your journey in every moment, i.e. you may be empowered in the one moment and not in the next. So these answers aren’t set in stone and neither is your emotional state. These are determined moment by moment, which is also how you are able to direct your life, by directing as many of the moments as you can.
In the next lesson we will have a look at moving toward what we want looks like.
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